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Wedding Diets – A Rant

Stretching Exercise Funny

There is a photograph that you might have come across if you ever happened to search anything wedding related on the internet. It is of a woman on a treadmill, and on the treadmill next to her is a wedding dress, draped like a carrot on a stick.

My weight has fluctuated a lot since I was a teenager. This is a pretty normal thing, this happens to a lot of people. It has constantly been something I feel like I have had to think about, or something that I have been presented with as something I should be aware of. It comes from everywhere around us, friends, family and more so than anything else, the media. It occurred to me around 4 years ago that I was really tired of this, of being made to think about my weight. I was bored of complaining, or being complained too by people about how fat I am/they are, or how gross I am/they are. Even when at my smallest, my weight was still something I thought about, and that screams to me that something isn’t right. I have now come to realise that it is not my issue per say, but rather a symptom of what I have been made to feel by the world around me. It saddens me that things are like this. Not just for me, but for every single female (and male) in the Western world.

I am not 100% happy with how I look right now, but I don’t think I ever will be and I don’t think I ever have been. I think that is probably a sentiment that most women can empathise with. I have decided to accept that fact, some things you cannot change. There are more important things in the world. I have spent too many hours of my life fretting and worrying about these things, which really at the end of the day do not matter. I do not look at any of my friends and think these bad things about them, so why should I think them about myself? I have no time for it anymore.

The fact that I am now a “bride to be”, has apparently lumped me with the rule that I “MUST” lose weight in order to look my best for my wedding. This, to be frank, pisses me off. That photo pissed me off. The fact that throughout my adult life I had promised myself that I would “get my weight in order” when I got engaged pissed me off. The fact I am getting married is not a reason to lose weight. My fiancé does not love me any more or any less because of my size. I was this size when he asked me to marry him.

To be clear, this pressure has come from no one I actually know, but rather it has been shoved in my face by numerous social medias, bride magazines and wedding planning websites. I recently downloaded a “to-do” tick off list, and the top task one is “SIGN UP FOR THE GYM – now is the time to start dieting to look your best for your wedding day”.

Do you know what? Fuck you list.

If I am going to sign up for the gym it is going to be because I want to get healthier, for my life, because I want to be fitter, for my life. My marriage is not about one day, it is about my life.

So many women put themselves through hell before their weddings to fit into a dress that they will never wear again afterwards. To spend 18 month avoiding carbs and doing hours of training in the gym only to drop it all after the wedding and “let normal service resume”. All of this for one day? It just seems so silly to me.

I do not like this “dangling the carrot” thing I am being faced with. The wedding dress on the treadmill. The completely untrue “fact” that in order to be considered beautiful on my wedding day I will have to stop eating, and start running. It is grossly unfair, and unhealthy to have this attitude. I do not want my future daughter to feel like in order to be beautiful she has to be thin. I truly believe that all women are beautiful no matter what their size. The only reason to “lose weight” is for your health. Not to fit into a stupid dress.

February – Month Update

Ooooh monthly updates! Why didn’t I think of this sooner? I mean, that is sort of what has been happening anyway but here we go. Let’s try this. See how it goes.

Thank you for joining me for what will be known as “2016 – The year of sporadic blogging”, a brain-storm, if you will, of finding my footing in the bloggosphere.

So what did February bring?

Oh lots of things. It is interesting that normally Jan/Feb are really tough months for me (I think many people find this actually), but this year they have been a breeze. I believe this is because I have been somewhat distracted by wedding planning which is terribly exciting.

February has been a month of Gel Nails! I originally decided to get some lovely nails done for the engagement party at the beginning of February. I am now on my third round and loving having pretty nails. They last around 2 weeks. I am not sure how long I will keep doing this for, I am not sure how great it is for your nails! Think I will probably do one more round for my holiday in March but have a break after. In any case, I can HIGHLY recommend Daisy Nail Company SPA on Preston Street in Brighton. They always do a fantastic job, the staff are super nice and they have around 200 colours for gel nails! I am currently sporting a pastel purple which I am totally in love with.

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Our engagement party was on the 6th February! We hired the village hall in Rottingdean, and decorated it with some banners and photos. I don’t actually have that many photos as I was too busy milling around talking to people. We were really overwhelmed with the number of people that came, and the number of presents and beautiful cards that we were given. I have bought a nice scrapbook to save all the cards. I think this will be a nice thing to look back on in years to come. We had a fabulous time, and again huge thanks to my parents for all their help to throw the party, and my Aunt Lisa for the incredible cakes! Everyone has been raving around them since.

Engagement Party Engagement Party

February also saw the absolutely incredible Slamboree play their first headliner gig at the Concorde 2 in Brighton. I was first introduced to Slamboree when they played a tiny festival in Brighton about 3 or 4 years ago held on the Old Steine so it was great to see them again, this time truly appreciated by a HUGE up-for-it crowd. We all got dressed up in hats, gold, reds and blacks, as much glitter as I could get my grubby paws on. It was amazing. The show was sold-out, I danced my arse off, it took me the best part of 3 days to feel normal again. (I am getting too old for this).

Friends Slamboree

Slamboree Rave Concorde 2

We also saw Fairport Convention again with Jezz’s Dad, his girlfriend Valerie and their friend in Worthing. It is a yearly trip we all make. Jezz has been going since 1995 with his Dad, and his Dad even longer so it is really lovely that I have now become part of their yearly thing. This was my 4th year and they were just as good. A very different pace of gig from Slamboree!

I developed hives in February. WOOP.

I initially suspected bug bites but as time went on I decided going to see a doctor was the best step. She confirmed it was hives and probably from something I had eaten. I hadn’t eaten anything unusual that I could think of, but reading I can see that sometimes some people just develop an allergy literally overnight. Super weird. More internet research (apologies to all doctors out there) I read that it isn’t always necessarily from something consumed but could also be a cosmetic. So I have narrowed it down to the following suspects, Dove shower gel/moisturiser, biological washing detergent… and most distressingly… gin. I have been taking anti-histamines and been a lot better, no huge flare ups for a few days now fingers crossed… I just hope it is not my beloved gin. *wails*

Hives

February wedding planning was still a go-go, some big decisions were made and some dresses tried on. I am, for obvious reasons not going to talk about dresses too much. I am much happier about trying dresses on now and it is much more fun when you are into it! However you can go dress blind… lace, white, sparkles, chiffon, tuille…. it’s a alot. But I am enjoying it! 😀

We have decided on the venue, booked and set a date now. EEEEEEEEE. So we are looking at September 2017. It feels very good to have set a date and got the important bits done, if all else fails we are definitely getting married, can have some food, all in a building with some seats we can use! HURRAH!

So yes, that is February 2016. It has been busy. It looks as if March is going to be pretty busy too, and it is also bringing the looming ski holiday (panic). So… I will report back in March… if I survive!

TTFN

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Beginning the wedding planning!

I am terrible. I have got worse, but as I said in my last post, sorry it might happen a bit this year. January was NUTS. Pretty much every weekend was filled with grown up things and doing stuff and I have not had a chance to spend a days sat on the sofa in my pants.

Rubbish.

Trying to cheer up the dreary January weather

Trying to cheer up the dreary January weather

So the planning for the wedding has begun! Things are starting to move forward a little and while that still makes me feel a bit, “ARGH”, it also fills me with confidence. Last year I found myself getting a bit panicked because nothing was happening and there is just so much to do!

I always knew that there was a lot involved in wedding planning, but my goodness there is A LOT. So many things, and many of these things can’t be arranged until something else is done… and… well. My brain is already full of things.

We have now visited 5 venues. Without giving too much away, we arranged visits to a few different styles of location. Some manor houses, barns and one wild card. So we shall see. There are just so many in the area, and it is very overwhelming. Who knew you could get married in so many places?

We have decided that we do not want to get married in Brighton, we would like to go out of town. We live right in the centre and spend most days in the area, so both feel like it would be good to get away. Go somewhere new and exciting to celebrate. However, this also poses the problem of transport, and finding places that are not too far away for guests. Absolute minefield.

Anyway, it is so incredibly exciting, and is really starting to feel more real now. I could hardly sleep last night my brain was in overdrive thinking about the day, and the honeymoon, the dress, the shoes, the favours, the tea and coffee, the rings…. SO MUCH TO THINK ABOUT.

Hopefully soon we will have a venue, and I can start organising more of the little bits.  I may have already organised my shoes!

Happy New Year

We find ourselves here in 2016 and I cannot help but think… when the bloody hell did that happen?

Christmas 2015 Moustache

Christmas flew past, New Years shot past and now I am back at work having put on 3 stone in weight and trying to ignore the naughty leftover Christmas treats sitting at the end of my desk.
(Be gone with you box of celebrations).

Christmas Dinner 2015

I would like to resolve this year to be better at making blog posts, but as you can probably tell, I am not very good at this (or keeping resolutions). So I have decided to not put quite so much pressure on myself to post this year. I have so many draft posts sat waiting, that I never felt were quite up to scratch to post. Rather than filling my blog with hauls (my credit card breathes a sigh of relief) just so I can get up 2 posts a week, I am going to write, when I want… I feel a bit like a still need to find what suits me most with blogging. I do love it. I do love reading comments and hearing feedback. So I will continue, but for now, probably not every week. Maybe, I am going for a more informal blogging technique for now.

There is a wedding to plan this year. I cannot help but feel incredibly overwhelmed by this at the moment and totally out of my depth. A guest list has been made. An engagement party planned. A couple of visits arranged for the location. I guess headway is being made! But I still feel a bit like I do not know what I am doing, but then I remind myself that no bride probably knows what they are doing. They are all in this boat. I need to dial down my control-freak tendancies I think, and go with the flow. It won’t be fun if I panic, and more than anything we want it to be a fun day.

Anyway, long and short of it, I think 2016 is going to be a super exciting year, super busy but super exciting. I hope to use Amynoos as a platform to make note of my exciting planning adventures. So bear with me (as usual) this year, maybe less posts, but hopefully better ones.

Don’t worry, I will no doubt bore you with some hauls still 😛 Can’t leave my credit card too unloved!!

Christmas 2015 Champagne

I hope that 2016 is good for each and every one of you! I look forward to seeing what the new year brings for each of us.

Where have you gone?

I am here!!!

I have gone AWOL again and I am so so sorry. The last time we spoke (blogged? read? wrote? all of the above?) I had come back from Cambridge, got contacts and had just moved house. Life has been pretty much non-stop since then and I am not entirely sure where all the time has gone?

However we are now here, in November somehow…

So where have I been? So many things have happened! I moved in with Jezz, still currently a bit of a topsy turvy process. His brother was also living there for the first month, he recently moved out and work has commenced on getting the flat ship shape. Jezz’s mum and her partner are very kindly doing some work on the flat over the next two weeks so once that has done hopefully I can properly unpack. It took me nearly half an hour on Monday to find a Pyrex dish! (I was making toad in the hole, had to have the correct equipment!).

I turned 30 in October! I am not entirely sure that has sunk in…. I am not entirely sure that the fact I turned 21 ever sank in…

We celebrated by going to Portland, Dorset with some of my absolute faves for a holiday. I will write a proper post for that soon!

Also something incredibly exciting happened…. Jezz asked me to marry him!

Engagement Photo

I of course, said yes!

I am so excited to be marrying my best friend. I am so excited that he wants to marry me! I cannot wait to start planning our special day, and our future together. It freaks me out a bit, but in a really good way. I am very much on cloud-9 cuckoo-land right now!

Anyway, that is where we are at right now. As you can imagine I have been a little distracted.

Thank you, again, for bearing with me.

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